Hanover, NH – The Rev. Betty (Elizabeth) McOuat Lameyer Gilmore, age 90, died peacefully January 8, 2026.
A Whittier memory-care resident at the Kendal at Hanover (NH) retirement community for the past six year, deep into Alzheimer's Disease, yet a generally happy "two-year-old camper"; moved to Kendal at Hanover from Portland, Maine with her second husband Roger Gilmore, August 2013. Had two careers, the first as a piano teacher, having majored in music at Smith college ('56), the second as an ordained Espiscopal Priest, serving as interim rector at several churches in the Diocese of Massachusetts (Southborough, Foxboro, Topsfield); then as Rector of Trinity Episcopal Church in Portland, Maine for ten year (1990-2000), the first woman to be a rector in the Diocese of Maine. Her first husband, Gordon Lameyer, the father of her three children, died suddenly in 1991. Three years later, a mutual friend introduced for to Roger Gilmore, then the President of the Maine College of Art, who had been a widower for three months; a year later they married. Each then had three adult children, all coincidentally born in New Hampshire. Betty's eldest, William, died of heart failure March 5, 2017. Her second son, Edward (Ted), is an architect in Castine, Maine; her third son, John, is in airline management in San Francisco. There are seven Lameyer grandchildren.
In her later years, Betty pursued various arts and crafts, including knitting (a skill since childhood), mastering rug-hooking (making her own designs and dyes), needlepoint, and, at Kendal, painting. While a rector, she learned to play the Celtic harp, finding it to be an effective aid in tending to the sick and dying.
Her body has gone to Dartmouth's Geisel School of Medicine for instructional purposes. At some future time, her remains will be buried alongside her first husband's in Castine, Maine, long the side of a summer vacation home.
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